So I’m going to leave the sexy stuff alone for today, I want to talk about something else. Something that’s just as important if not more important than being sexually fulfilled. What is that you ask?
I want to talk about loving yourself, it’s a phrase that most of us take for granted, including myself. I mean, who doesn’t love themselves is what most of you are saying but I want you to take two and a half seconds and think about it.
Okay, stop thinking and read!
Every single person that is reading my words right now, you want to know a secret? Look at the screen very carefully.
YOU ARE SPECIAL! GOD CREATED YOU FOR A PURPOSE AND THAT PURPOSE WAS NOT TO BE SAD OR USED OR ABUSED OR PLAYED! YOU ARE A MIRACLE AND YOUR LIFE IS TO BE CHERISHED AND FRUITFUL AND PRODUCTIVE!
I’m not bible scholar but I did grow up in the church and one of my favorite scriptures is, “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.” There will always be people that are just negative, I don’t think they’re haters or mean spirited; I just think somewhere in their lives they were hurt to the point of no return. So when they see you trying to climb out of a hole, they don’t know how to reach down and help you… They only know how to walk away or tell you why you should stay in the hole.
LIFE CAN BE HARD! IT CAN BE STRESSFUL! IT CAN MAKE YOU CRY!
But there’s always redemption if you love yourself because you know that you have your best interest in heart!
Part of loving yourself is knowing who you can and can’t be around, knowing who’s negative just because and who’s giving you constructive criticism. Words are my baby so I know the power they have, the power they have to cut, to burn, to choke! You can’t love yourself if you surround yourself with negativity. It’s like trying to stay dry with no umbrella in a rainstorm.
WE’RE ALL BEAUTIFUL TO SOMEONE!
WE’RE ALL ADORED BY SOMEONE!
WE’RE ALL LOVED BY SOMEONE!
I have met women that were perfect for me in the physical sense but horrible for me in the spiritual and emotional sense. I’ve had friends that were my dogs, ride or die but they were not the sort of men I wanted to be Godparents to my children. In learning to love myself I had to learn to accept that not everyone is meant to be in my circle, not everyone is meant to partake in the love I have for myself and for them.
DON’T EVER FORGET THAT THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE IS YOU! MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR MATE, YOUR CHILD, YOUR PARENTS! WHY…
Because if you’re not happy, it’s going to be hard as hell to make the people around you happy.
It’s sounds amazingly romantic to say, “I’m losing myself in love.” But when you make that decision to lose yourself in someone, you’re making a decision to lose your identity. To sacrifice the natural love you have for yourself and project all of you on someone else. I’m not saying you shouldn’t give your all but what I am saying is, don’t forgot that the only way you can love anyone is to love yourself.
TREAT YOURSELF TO LUNCH, A DRINK, DINNER!
We’re human, we’re not meant to be alone but we’re also not meant to give up and settle. Life is too short not to know how special you are.
My name is Demez F. White and I believe in you. I believe that you have the ability to do whatever you want in this life if you’re willing to work at it.