Why does the minister say, “If there is anyone here who objects to this Union, let them speak now or forever hold their peace? It’s because once you’re married no man or woman can come in-between the bond that God has Christened. There are no such vows or bonds for your girlfriend or boyfriend or baby daddy or boo or whatever you want to call the person you’re spending time with. People have this nasty habit of giving husband/wife rights to people that quite frankly don’t deserve those rights. I’m a very upfront man when it comes to the women I desire. If I think she’s too good for him or isn’t happy why ignore that? Is my loyalty to a man I’ve never met or is my loyalty to my own happiness?
Don’t misunderstand me, if someone is in a healthy and happy relationship that’s progressing and growing and flourishing I’d be a real ***** ass guy to try and get in the middle of that. But if I can see she’s only in there because she’s settling or because she feels like she has to be loyal then it’s completely fair to speak with her and to see if the door is open for a courtship.
I’m not a bad guy, I’m just willing to write what most people think but are afraid to say out loud for fear of being labeled unflattering names. You don’t think there was a woman in President Obama’s life before Michelle? Or a woman in Boris Kojo’s life before Nicole? I’m not saying these women took these men from whatever woman but I am saying that there was a point when they were dating other women and these women separated themselves from the pack.
As a man that loves women the worst image in the world to me is a grown woman that’s been with the same guy for two or three or four years and he’s given her a child. He’s told her a million times that he’s going to marry her one day but there she sits waiting for him to grow up and do right by her. What I want to scream to that woman is, “If he was going to marry you he would have done it by now!!!” She’s loyal, faithful and wants nothing more than him not realizing she’s single. Not realizing that man is simply killing time until he meets a woman worth marrying. The biggest mistake men and women make is mistaking loyalty for ignorance. Being faithful to a man or woman that doesn’t want to do right by you doesn’t make that man or woman stupid. It makes you stupid. You’re single until there’s an “I do.” Now single doesn’t mean available but it’s still single none the less.