What’s the difference between a man playing with a woman or killing time with her and actually taking her serious? All women aren’t created equal, some are more beautiful than others, some more ambitious, some funnier. There are still common denominators that tell us, “She’s not to be played with.”
Five– Honesty- If you want a man to take you serious, just be honest with him. If he asks you if you have plans on a Friday night and you have another date, tell him. He’s going to be pissed, jealous but he’s also going to realize you don’t have time to sit around waiting on him to pursue you like he should have been doing in the beginning. Either he’s going to pout and ask about the other man or he’s going to step his game up before you’re out of his reach. An honest woman is scary because she can bring out some insecurities but she can also make you realize that she knows she’s a catch and being on standby isn’t an option for her.
Four– Standards– It’s perfectly fine to tell a man that you don’t do certain things. If he asks you to dinner or out for drinks ask him where you’re going. If it’s not somewhere that you’d normally go tell him to pick another place. If he only texts and you like talking on the phone, tell him to start calling more. There is a difference between being bossy or having unrealistic expectations and setting expectations and standards.
Three- Professional Goals– Potential is nothing but knowing someone is capable of not getting where they need to be. If a call you and you tell me you’re working or in meeting all day I can respect that. If I ask you out on a Thursday night and you tell me you have to be at work at 7 and you can’t have a late night I can appreciate that. Women that have a drive and determination to be successful professionally whether in a beauty shop, board room or fitness center just have a different aura. You value their time in a way that leaves no room for wasted energy.
Two- Maturity– Age is simply a number when you start talking women over 23. I’ve met women that are in their early 20’s that have dated men in their 40’s, engineers, CPA’s. They live on their own, dress in a professional manner during the day, dress sexy but respectable at night. Their voice, mannerisms, everything about them screams grown woman. You just approach them differently. On the flip side I’ve met women that are 30 plus that have no tact, no ambition, no sense of time and place. Men take women that project a certain maturity so much more seriously.
One (Drum Roll Pleeeeeeease)- Authenticity– It may take us a while to figure it out but and we may notice it the first night we meet you but there isn’t anything like an authentic woman. Someone that knows what she’s comfortable with and is good with that. I’ve ran across women that shop at thrift stores and Marshalls and garage sells and look like they could be on the cover of Vogue. They don’t have to pretend that it’s all Galleria all the time or seven hundred dollar heels or nothing. They don’t mind telling you about their boss that sucks or how they had to borrow some money from a friend until they got paid. Every one doesn’t have three months’ salary saved for a rainy day. Real is so underrated.