Men and women can be friends but there comes a point in all our lives when what we did when we were younger isn’t as acceptable as when we’re older. When you’re single your bestfriend can be a woman that comes by at midnight and sleeps in the bed with you. You can leave your house at two am to change her flat tire or take a road trip with her. Once she’s married though, boundaries prohibit you from ever having that sort of relationship with her again. If you can’t understand that than you can’t understand basic respect.
No matter how cool and casual you try to be with the opposite sex men will always be protective of the women they love and care about. This is a problem because you can’t have two men in a woman’s life that are willing to protect her at all cost. I’m excluding family because with family it’s a different type of love and emotional connection. An example, if I get into it with a woman I’m in a relationship with and her father or brother or cousin comes at me to ask why I hurt her I’ll be willing to talk it out. If a guy that’s her “friend” calls me or comes at me over her it’s a whole other situation. That’s because she’s not for him, she’s for me. That goes for any man woman relationship.
Friendships have a way of building over time, especially if you’re both good people. Men know what they have in the women they love and marry, they know how special she is and they see the way other men look at her. It sounds selfish to say she’s “my woman” and I don’t want her having a male bestfriend because it is selfish. So what? Love is selfish, marriage is selfish. You’re taking a person and saying I only want you to be with me for the rest of our lives. I only want you to make love to me, to kiss me, to smile at me with that perfect smile. Having her share that with another man even if it’s only on a friendly level is scary because you know what that smile does to men regardless if he’s saying otherwise.