Statistics have shown that 1 out of 4 men that think they’re being a player or in a relationship with a woman that’s extremely forgiving or cool is actually the side guy. If she’s not calling you when she doesn’t feel good or doesn’t feel like getting up to cook, it’s not because she doesn’t want to bother you. You’re the side guy. If you never call or text her back when you say you’re going to and she simply says, “Don’t worry baby.” You’re the side guy. If you randomly see her out with a friend and she treats you as though you’re some guy she played kick ball with in the 3rd grade, it’s not because she doesn’t want people in her business. You’re boyfriend #2. Here are 4 signs that will let you know you won’t be getting invited to Thanksgiving Dinner.
Four- Have you ever seen her at her worse? When she’s sick does she ask you to come over or does she tell you not to worry about it? Once you’re serious with a woman there is usually only one person she’ll call for help before she calls you and that’s her mother. 9 times out of 10 she’s not going to call her mother to bring her Tylenol PM or Midol at 9pm so ask yourself one logical question. If she’s not calling me when she needs something, who’s she calling? You can go thru the list, bestfriend, sister, brother, cousin, parent… But I promise you you’ll come to one conclusion. Once you’re having sex with a woman, you become her first option. If you’re not her first option, you’re boyfriend #2.
Three- Have you ever met any of the people she’s always talking about? Her family, her friends, co-workers that she’s always going to happy hours with. Women love to brag about men, not he bought me this or he did that but “I love him, let me introduce him to you all.” Some women don’t have a social networking presence so maybe she’s not posting pics or tagging you in post but you’ll meet someone. That’s the progression of life. You talk two times a day, meet when you can but you never meet anyone important to her? You’re boyfriend #2.
Two- Do you share secrets? Not sexual secrets or things that happened ten years ago but I mean stuff that no one knows. Not things that emotionally bond us and give us false connections but real things. Do you know the status of her bills, does she pay them once they’re past due or does she pay them on time. Does she need new tires on her car or does her father or ex boyfriend handle her maintenance? Has she ever been afraid she was pregnant or had an abortion, has she ever been sexually assaulted? Serious issues that will not come up in small talk. That she doesn’t feel comfortable sharing with friends. If she never gets this deep with you where her vulnerability starts to show, you’re her sideline pal.
One- Do you have to convince yourself that she loves you?
Some of these could mean she’s just not that interested in you. Some could mean you haven’t shown her enough for her to take you serious and another could simply mean she’s still going thru her ho phase and it’s not that you’re boyfriend #2 but 1 of 22. All of that’s possible but if you’re any combination of these 4 believe me when I say there’s another man lurking that knows nothing about you.