I’m entitling this Love, Lust and Obligation because I imagine when the day comes that I do get married I’ll marry for one of those three reasons. Hopefully all three.
Love because love is universal, it’s everlasting; it’s everything we make it out in our mind to be.
Lust because I want the woman I give this ring to too know I want to kiss her, taste her, lick her, touch her, smile at her every day that I’m physically and mentally capable. And I need for her to need me that same way. I’m no good without passion.
Obligation is simple, if she’s to be my wife I’m obligated to make sure her dreams come true. My success is her success; I’m obligated to make sure she never wants for a thing. My grandfather did it for grandmother and I made a promise to myself that when my day came I would hold my wife down in the same manner.
I know my writing can be incredibly cakey at times but understand this is sort of how my mind works. Some days I want to write about sex, some days dramatic fiction and some days I just feel the need to be romantic. To imagine the moments when I’ll have this happy ending.
These won’t be incredibly long, this is sort of a quickie note, so enjoy it!
Proposal One- Flowers Midnight and Simplicity
Grand gestures of romance are a great thing and they have their place. I saw a clip about three months ago where this guy set up an entire movie around a proposal. I thought that was incredibly creative but to be honest, it doesn’t take all that to make it memorable. Perfect moments don’t have to be youtube moments. I buy a lot of flowers, they’re cheap and the flower district off of Fannin is open 24hrs. Plus women love them, there’s just something about flowers that are sensual. And since most men are trying their best to be extra hard or only buy them when the moment is obvious it’s always cool to have ‘just because’ flowers.
Step One- You only need these flowers for one night, maybe the next morning. So go to the flower district and get the flowers that only have a couple of days to live. You can get them cheap and they’ll be happy to get rid of them because they’re throwing them away anyway. The more the better, you want to fill the entire living room or apartment with flowers. Vases are even cheaper, maybe five dollars. You may spend a hundred on 20 or so vases but you only propose once in life.
Step Two- Get good wine, not like Ralston’s or Kroger’s good but chilled and aged good. You can tell the difference. I would say champagne but champagne isn’t that great to me, wine is just sexier. It’s going to be midnight so you don’t have to worry about food, maybe breakfast food for the next morning.
Step Three- If she has a job she’ll be in bed before midnight, so encourage her to get in bed. If she’s a night owl, make up an excuse so that she won’t leave the bedroom. Run her this amazing bath so she’ll soak for an hour. The setup shouldn’t take any time. You’re only doing one room. Flowers in vases all over the place, the floor, the counter top, on top of the TV. Give it a Japanese Garden feel.
Step Four- At exactly midnight go get her out of bed, out the bath, off the computer. Walk her into the room and let her take in everything. A candle or two burning, flowers everywhere and the bottle of wine sitting in the middle. If she’s a ‘I love a man in a suit type’ wear a suit. If she’s just a cool chick, rock gym shorts and a tee. But make it about what she likes. Get down on one knee, say what you need to say to express how you feel. Let it all out, don’t hold anything back.
Proposal Two- Chocolate Strings and Memories
Step One- All women have a thing for chocolate, even women that don’t like chocolate appreciate good chocolate. Godiva is universal, maybe get some dipped fruit, some chocolate covered almonds. Get a medley of chocolate covered treats.
Step Two- Hire a violinist, musicians are cheap for the most part. They’re struggling artist. I would say get a hotel room and have him set up on the balcony. A suite though, not some small room that the three of you will be standing side by side in. Let hotel personal know so the noise won’t bother anyone. Set the chocolate up on a table.
Step Three- (And this will be a theme of the night) Tell her to meet you there, let the chocolate scent dominate the room. Make sure the violinist is dressed in his tux and when she walks in, just hold her hand or kiss her or touch the small of her back and let her know this is for her. Like she doesn’t know it already.
Step Four- Give the musician a signal to lower the music, women love men that are in control of the situation. Sit her on the bed or the couch and get on both knees in front of her. Look at her and smile, take out the ring and just ask.
Step Five- After she says yes and the musician is gone, after you’ve made love and she’s gushed about how sweet everything is. Give her a scrap book, something that tells the story of your courtship, your romance. Pictures, emails, FB stuff. Let her know how much she means to you. Not only did you go out of your way but now you’ve went ‘out of your way!’
Proposal Three- Go Big or Go Home!!!
Step One- The biggest, prettiest wedding ring you can afford. Calling, texting, emailing, face to face with every person she’s cool with. Co-workers, friends, family. Invite them all, rent out a ballroom, invite them to your home. Just make it a lot of people that love her.
Step Two- Send her something at work every couple of hours. First the shoes, next the dress and then by lunch she’s losing her mind waiting on the next gift. Make it jewelry, food, a vibrator. Just make the last gift something that relates to an inside joke the two of you had.
Step Three- Show her it’s real, get her name tattooed on you. And this isn’t me just talking, I’m all in when I go in. If I love her enough to get married I’ll love her a enough to get my first tattoo. When she walked thru that door shocked and crying, you smile at her. Stand in the middle of that room and tell the world about the tattoo, tell the world about how it felt to put all this together. Tell them why your life would be shit if she wasn’t in it.
Proposing to someone is something I think every time I go on a date. Every time I get a text or email. It’s not that I’m ready to marry just anyone but I love the idea of perfect proposals going into perfect weddings.