One- The “Hey Stranger” text. For months, maybe even years you haven’t spoken to her because she was in a happy, committed relationship. There may be the occasional Happy Birthday text or random small talk but you knew you two were never really friends so not talking didn’t bother you. Then all of a sudden you get that “Hey Stranger” text at nine, maybe ten pm. Not too late to be disrespectful but late enough to where you know she’s thinking about you. Late enough to know she wouldn’t be texting you if her man was around. It always starts with a “Hey Stranger” or “How have you been?” Her coming back to communicate with me means she’s falling back when it comes to him.
Two- Body Language. Body language is so official. We’ve all heard the term “church hug.” Where a woman sort of gives you that half shoulder, half arm, “stay away from my breast and pelvis” hug. You get one of those, you’re done homie. A lot of women aren’t overtly flirty. They don’t whisper in your ear and rub your thigh. There’s no, “I’m going to the restroom,” and then she sends you a freaky text and walks back to the bar or table like nothing happened. It’s all in her body language. Sitting on your side of the booth, making a lot of eye contact and facing you. Hugs that are tight, There’s a certain energy that radiates off her body, a heat that lets you know she’s not playing. When a woman has a man that body language is reserved for him. Once she opens it back up, all rules are off!
Three- Conversation. I saw this picture awhile back of the faces women make when they’re talking to a guy and he’s being too aggressive or cheesy. She says, “I’m about to take a shower,” and he asks, “Can I join?” She says, “I’m lying in bed,” and he asks, “Can I join?” We know that’s tacky but let’s not pretend women don’t get the biggest smile on their faces when the right man asks those same cheesy questions. You can talk to a woman for months and it be strictly fun and interesting and plutonic and then one night you ask her what she’s doing and the answer is no longer just, “I’m lying in bed.” It’s now, “I’m just lying here naked,” or “with panties on.” One small detail that changes everything. It’s deeper than just sex though, when you ask her how her day is going and two months ago it was, “It went okay.” Now it’s “I had a presentation today and I’m not sure I did so well,” or “My mom has been feeling sad lately, I think she’s lonely.” When she starts to entrust you with information important to her, real feelings. She wants back in.
Four- Marking Her Domain. When a woman is really into you she has her own way of letting people know. Dropping hints in conversations with mutual friends. Liking comments that certain women put on your social media. Asking questions about where you’re going are who you’re talking to, questions she didn’t ask before. A certain level of jealousy is normal, it’s actually appreciated. Once she stops being that women for the next guy; she’s going to want to be that woman for you.