It’s always been important to me that I be the man I write about. Let’s just be honest, we live in an age where most men aren’t what they “post to be.” It’s easy to hop online and tell everyone what you’d do if you had a wife or girlfriend but what’s not easy is actually being that man. Sacrificing, putting aside pride and just humbling yourself in the name of love and commitment.
One- Being romantic and talking about your woman or relationship doesn’t make you weak; it makes you an adult. I’m not saying post a dozen selfies a week of your mate or constantly talk about them but I’m saying it’s okay to let the world know how special someone is to you. So many men feel like they’re losing when they commit. Losing female options, freedom, etc but we tend to forget treating a woman right, being the man she adore because you’re sincere means you’re winning.
Two- I’m vulnerable at times. Wait a minute. I said that too low, I’M VULNERABLE AT TIMES! You hear me now? It’s okay to say that you need someone to talk to. That you need that person to see you at your worst and not judge you. There’s nothing cool about being in a dark place and not having one woman to call because you’ve treated them all like options. Why should or would a woman give you her all when you’re constantly making it clear she’s just not that important? Does that make sense?
Three- Life is not a movie. There are no James Bonds in real life. If there were he’d be in dialysis from drinking too much or probably have HIV from sleeping around. For as much as music and memes tell us that women love being side chicks and aren’t loyal… That’s sort of bullsh**. Women are quite loyal and hate guys that cheat. So if you want your stock to go up, if you want women to admire you. Be faithful. Don’t text at 3am, don’t meet them for drinks, don’t be that guy that’s taken and acts single. Be a good man. You fight with your girl, don’t vent on FB, get a bottle and go outside and drink until you’re ready to apologize. The American way. Women adore good men and if the day comes when you’re single. They’ll remember the man that loved his woman and did right by her. Not the cheating asshole.
Four- Have you ever seen someone smile because you’re smiling? Have you ever did something really small and it made her day? Have you ever had a toothache or been constipated and she made it better? You don’t get that comfort level, that feeling of “I’m hurting so she’s hurting” bouncing from woman to woman. When I was younger I was a horrible boyfriend. When we broke up and I was single I was a horrible guy to date. I lied a lot, drank too much, was selfish and more importantly messed over too many good girls. I can’t change who I was but what I can do is tell other men it’s never too late. It won’t be easy but it’ll be worth it.