Ten Romantic Ideas For the Winter…

I’m at work and the day is moving sort of slow, my wifi just won’t act right and who really works on a Friday anyway. So I’m going to give the world or the 12.3 people that read my blog some tips on how to be original, charming and romantic in these upcoming winter months. Nothing over the top that the average guy can’t afford but nothing like dinner and a movie either. Chicks get tired of the norm so give them something they can brag to their friends about. These are the key concepts to always keep in mind. Know your woman and what she will and won’t take to. Liquor and humor are your best friends and if push comes to shove always compliment the parts of her body that appeal to her ego. Don’t tell her she has a nice ass if she knows it’s flat or that I love your hair if you both know she shouldn’t have cut it. She loves her breasts so talk about her boobs, simple right? So read up and enjoy.

Ten: Houston is not a cold weather city which means our Winter is like most people’s Fall. This is not a bad thing at all because it allows women to still rock Fall clothing but not actually freeze. And fyi, very few women like being teeth chattering cold, unless she’s from Minnesota or something. And you want a Southern boo in your life anyway. So picnics are the perfect way of life. You can get a basket from Family Dollar, ready made fresh food and fruit from a HEB and of course wine. Chicks love wine. It won’t be humid or hot, there won’t be crazy mosquitoes, the tress will have that Fall color to the leaves and most important… When is the last time someone took her on an actual picnic? 

Nine: Take her shopping. But somewhere that you’re comfortable spending money and somewhere that you know she’ll like. I personally can’t afford to take a woman to Neimans and ball out but I do know several boutiques that are quite reasonable and have really cute clothes. She won’t try and break you and 9 times out of 10 she’ll ask you how much she has to spend. Women are sort of upfront like that when you’re sleeping together. If you’re not having sex, give her budget so there’s no confusion. If you want her, do the things to show her.

Eight: Two words… “Road Trip” my friends… Give her two weeks notice so she can get her affairs in check and tell her, “We’re going to Austin or Dallas next weekend, I already made the hotel reservations and got us tickets to blah blah blah.” Two words turn women on like nothing else. Tickets and reservations. Look, you aren’t taking her to Cabo for a week or Spain for the winter but you’re giving her a break and that’s all she really wants. Will you be required to do more in the future, yes, but for now this will do.

Seven: Take advantage of living in a really big, really pampery city. Houston probably has more spas per square mile than anywhere because we have all these mega communities like the Woodlands, Pearland, Sugarland and Katy. You go online, find a spa special where she gets a massage and mud treatment for a couple hours. Maybe you spend 120 and she has like three months to use it. So when she’s had a long day at work or a bad week she’ll remember that spa certificate, go use it and you’ll get all the residual effects from her good vibrations.

Six: Set her up a photo shoot. I’m being dead serious by the way. She’s on Facebook or Instagram all the time seeing women she knows she looks better than posting “model pics.” So tell her you know a guy with a studio and you set her something up, makeup artist are a dime a dozen in Houston, pay a chick 65 dollars to do her makeup professionally and make her dinner and work on a concept with her. She’ll complain about needing to get in shape or not having time but believe me she’ll be excited. Most women haven’t had an actual photo shoot since they graduated High School or College. Every woman has an inner model.

Five: Paintball, indoor rock climbing, laser tag. That mix between having fun and exerting energy. Lounges are great, bars are better and restaurants are cool but they do get old and sometimes you just need to let her shoot you in the face with a paintball gun. Or push you off a fake mountain so she can beat you. It’s fun and it’s different and it’ll allow her to buy some cool paintball clothes. I started off this blog by talking about how perfect our Winters are, I meant that. Running around and being a kid in 55 degree weather leads to amazing early nights and “in house” competition. Wink wink.

Four: I can’t take credit for this one because I stole it from Whitney while we were having a conversation but do you know how much time goes by when you’re playing with her iPod or she’s playing with yours looking at playlists, reminiscing about old songs. Making new lists and laughing about why this is on there or what happened to that guy. Music is so Universal, corporate women love Jeezy and UGK. The hardest guys love Al Green or Prince. A bottle or two of her favorite wine, a small bottle of Patron, a pizza and talking about and listening to music all night. You can’t make up those sorts of memories.

Three: Do something selfless. Take a Sunday morning, make sandwiches, get a bunch of Gatorades and go downtown and pass them out. Go to a nursing home and play dominoes with the elderly, just talk to them. Charity is going to allow you two to really appreciate how good you have it and by appreciating that you’ll appreciate each other more. This time of year is hard for a lot of families, helping them is going to give that relationship or courtship life.

Two: Take her to the gun range. Simple, efficient and you can’t imagine how much a woman will love shooting a gun until you see her shooting a gun.

One: Kiss her. Kiss her when you get in the car to go somewhere. Kiss her when she’s getting out the shower. Kiss her when you’re standing at the stove and she tries to steal a fry or carrot. There is power and love and lust and perfection in those stolen kisses.



Nothing Casual About Sex…

I can’t tell you what Eric Jerome Dickey book it was but there was this quote that said when you sleep with someone a piece of your soul goes with them and the more you sleep with them the more of you they have. Even if you think it’s meaningless your souls are now connected. And then last night I was on Facebook and saw a friend make the statement…

Pay attention to whom you share your intimate energy with. Intimacy at this level intertwines your aural energy with the aural energy of the other person. These powerful connections, regardless of how insignificant you think they are, leave spiritual debris, particularly within people who do not practice any type of cleansing, physical, emotional or otherwise. The more you interact intimately with someone the deeper the connection and the more their aura is intertwined with yours. Imagine the confused aura of someone who sleeps with multiple people and carries around these multiple energies? What they may not realize is that others can feel that energy which can repel positive energy and attract negative energy into your life. “Never sleep with someone you don’t want to be.” ~ Ebony Griffin

My point on this beautiful Friday is that there is no such thing as casual sex. There is no such thing as meaningless sex. Even if you aren’t a religious person you have to understand that our bodies are temples. Whether it’s the food we eat, the things we drink or the intimate moments we share. Something as simple as a kiss is your energy, your DNA, your essence being inhaled into another person. We can’t attach the words casual or meaningless to an act that can create a human life.

I’ve written this week about sexually loose people changing, I’ve written about fathers not in the home and all those are tied to sexual experiences that took way more from those people than it gave them. There’s nothing casual about your essence. This is the thing, I’m not judging the women that sleep with men for money or the men that sleep with women for the thrill of the hunt. That’s not my place, I’m not without sin. What I’m simply doing is pointing out that even if you think there’s a purpose for you giving your body to someone that purpose probably isn’t worth it. I saw a status the other day that said…

“As long as a woman as a mouth and a pu**y she should never be broke.” That saddened me so much because when you put a value on your body you’re diminishing your brand. Is your body worth a 200 dollar cable bill? Is it worth a 147 dollar light bill? Or is it worth someone co-signing for you a car? I get times get hard and morals have to be sacrificed, sins have to be committed but with every sin you commit using your body you’re demoralizing your body.

Sexual expression and freedom may be your thing, if you can give yourself to people in that way that’s between you and your God but when you’re doing it physically but in your mind and heart you don’t want to be there. That’s the shit that damages your soul. These movies come out, “No Strings Attached,” “Friends with Benefits,” and they sort of glorify the whole idea that you can be friends with a woman and still have this really intense, nasty sex. That’s simply craziness people! I’m the sort of man that has jealous tendencies, if we’re sleeping together, we’re serious. Point. Blank. I’m not going to be lying next to you on the couch naked and you set up a date with another guy or tell me “thanks buddy.” I don’t believe in casual sex or one night stands. Sure, I flirt a lot and I do my fair share of going out but that’s not sleeping around. And any man that sleeps with you but then claims to be cool with you talking to other men is horrible for your aura and you better run because he could care less about you. And if it’s a woman you really better bounce because she’s been thru some stuff.

This is the first day that I can remember that it’s going to be cool most of the day. The wind blowing, a nice jacket, hot chocolate and Bailey’s. Don’t waste days like this on people that don’t deserve your aura, your spirit, your body. I don’t know if there’s ever a good time to give yourself to those sort of negative spirits but now is definitely not the time. You’re worth the wait, that’s what I try to get across to people. If someone wants you, they’ll wait until you’re comfortable.