It’s Not Okay to Propose to Your Woman At Someone Else’s Wedding!

IMG_0141It’s Not Okay to Propose to Your Woman At Someone Else’s Wedding!

It Can’t Always Be About You

We all have that one friend that’s a one upper. Maybe they’re not your real friend but they’re a social media friend. You tell them you’re excited about Miami and they tell you, “You should see Spain!” You tell them your kid just got accepted into a college and they tell you how their kid got accepted into a better college.

One upper guy or gal doesn’t always do it because they’re jerks that lack common sense and etiquette. Sometimes they don’t have malicious intent at all; sometimes they just need the conversation to be about them.

The thing we all learn in like 1st grade though is that it can’t always be about you. There will be days where you don’t win the spelling bee and days where you aren’t the best kick ball player in the world. Adult life is sort of the same way. Every conversation doesn’t have to be about YOU. It’s okay to sit back and let someone tell you about their weekend without you telling them how much better your weekend was.

The one upper isn’t always interrupting with good news either. It can be something as simple as, “I cut my finger shaving,” and one upper will let you know how they broke their arm changing the channel with the remote. Anything to have people talk about or look at them instead of talking about or looking at you.

I had a conversation once about wedding proposals and the simple truth is people are so blinded by love that they don’t often realize what’s okay and what’s not okay. Asking your woman to get married on a beach in Spain is dope. Asking your woman to get married at a reception your boy paid 85 dollars a plate for. That’s not too cool.

Why do people think this is okay? This is the ultimate level of one upperness! I’m going to choose the most important day of your life and turn it into a joint venture? This is not okay and a fight has to come with that.

Your friend goes through a horrible breakup and is crying and heartbroken and you sit there like, “I remember when I lost my dog; girl I didn’t think I would recover but I did.” Yo, this isn’t about your dog, this is about your friend.

One upping/ scene stealing has ruined more friendships than borrowing money and shoes and spring breaks where someone forgot to pay their half on the room. It’s okay for it not to always be about you. It’s okay to listen, to be happy for someone, to not turn the day or night or conversation into your show.

Scandal Needs To Show Me More Tonight

Potentially Great Show

Potentially Great Show

I’m not one of those people that watch Scandal because the lead actress is a black woman. As a matter of fact that almost does the talent and writers of that show a disservice. I watch Scandal because I love political and legal dramas. I watched “The West Wing.” I love “House of Cards” on Netflix and “The Practice” is my favorite legal drama with “Law and Order” coming a close second. Talented, ambitious and ruthless people all pushing themselves to do unspeakable things out of loyalty and for power? That never gets old.

It’s not that Scandal isn’t good. They’ll be some internet troll that reads my title and completely misses the point. Scandal has too many great actors, too great a storyline to not allow the characters to grow more. Us learning more about the characters isn’t letting them grow. Kerry Washington is a star but she’s easily replaceable because of the content. I’m not even sure what the President’s name is but he could die tomorrow and whatever new attractive/ conflicted guy they brought in would fill that role because of the content.

This season should be one where we as an audience see more out of these characters. I have a unique viewpoint as a writer because I don’t blame actors when shows become redundant. I blame the people that are writing the show. What makes great television for me is when I can see real life without the chaos of fictional characters.

Scandal is a good show but if this season is like last season all it will be is a good show and by this time next year we will be talking about it being stale. It has the potential to be a franchise. To have a spinoff about Huck and the missions he ran while he was in that secret undercover team of assassins. Law and Order and Law and Order SVU have survived for over a decade because they constantly took stories from real life and switched out charters. You can be successful without recycling the same storyline.

That’s my opinion, looking forward to the season premiere!