Are They Looking For Help or Falling In Love?

perfect love The difference between someone loving you and someone trying to escape the prison they’ve set up around their heart is barely visible to the human eye. As a matter of fact it could take years for you to actually realize that they were looking for help and not looking for love.

A lot of people associate looking for help with financial situations. They’re looking for someone to help pay bills or to get some money from but when someone is looking for help it can often be emotional help. When someone has been damaged or hurt often times all they need is a good person in their life to balance out all the heartbreak and lies they had to deal with before.

This isn’t always a bad thing but it isn’t always a good thing either. What happens is you become a glorified stop gap. Someone to heal them but does healing equate to loving?

It’s not necessarily a bad thing you know. Someone needing you to help them opposed to falling in love with you. We can’t dictate why people need us in their lives; all we can hope is their intentions are genuine.
There are plenty of people out here looking for help for all the wrong reasons and karma always comes back on those people.
~ Demez

The Morning We Woke Up In America…

I woke up in a country where women said my body belongs to me and rape is rape.

Where homosexuals and lesbians said stop putting a title on who I am and who I love and just let us live.

Where Latinos stood together and said we came to this country not to steal, destroy and take your resources but to make a better life for ourselves.

I woke up in a country where single women were 19% of the vote because they wanted the world, the country, the 1% to know that they do have a voice and that marriage doesn’t make that voice more powerful.

I woke up in a country where black people stood in lines that were a half mile long in Florida and Ohio, were black people got tired of hearing, “Well they don’t vote anyway,” and we stood up and said… “Yes we do, we can and we will!”

This election has brought out some of the hate and anger and lies that still exist in America. It’s fractured some friendships that will never be repaired. And you know what… That’s a good thing! Because I’d rather look the people in the face that feel a certain way about me than to have them smile in my face thinking they deserve more than me.

The majority of us will never own our own business or make a 100k a year and that doesn’t make us lazy or unmotivated or users. That makes us the working class that help put this nation together.

African slaves built the plantations and dug the oil wells in the south. Asian immigrants built the railroad that sits on the plains and inner cities of America. Latino immigrants till this day work in the fields of our farming industry. At some point we were all immigrants and being used. We are not each others enemy! We are one voice and this morning I am that voice.

The smile on my face and warmth in my heart isn’t just because our candidate won. It’s because we weren’t complacent or complicit in letting a small group of men try to govern one of the most diverse and prosperous countries in the world!

God Bless America!

All Men and Women Aren’t Created Equal… But Deserving None the Less

I admire the way Dr. King, Jesus and Socrates looked at the world. The saw the best in everyone, thought that everyone was equal from birth. And if you look at the world in a broad sense they were right. We all deserve basic rights.

Voting.

Healthcare.

Freedom of Religion and Speech.

The idea that a 14 year old girl can be gunned down on a bus for wanting an education isn’t logical or human. But today on this beautiful Friday in Houston, Texas I’m not talking about basic human rights.

I’m writing about the women that men fall for, the women that deserve my time, money, respect, patience, love, tongue, lips, smile and most importantly my words. All women just aren’t created equal and the truth is everyone knows it but sometimes it’s just not politically correct to say it. If you’re pretty as hell, work at a job that you love, have no children or maybe one that’s cute as hell and you are just interesting in a lot of ways… You’re simply going to get a better grade of courtship than the extremely loud and ghetto girl that feels the world has screwed her over. Or the single chick that refuses to fix herself up because she’s not going to let men “dictate” how she looks. All women aren’t equal and if you’re a woman reading this…

All men aren’t equal either.

I know plenty… PLENTY… of men that are more than willing to sit back and not just let a woman lead but let a woman dictate everything from what he wears to how much money he gets for beer and Madden. Guys that live at home and could care less about moving out, in their eyes why move when I could just stay with mom until I find a woman to move in with?

Those men are not my equal and I wouldn’t even insult myself or women by pretending that they are.

I want you all reading to get a full understanding of what I’m saying, there is nothing the matter with working at Popeyes or sweeping floors or digging ditches. A hard day’s work is a hard day’s work but the problem comes in when that man can no longer see a future for himself. When he starts to work to pay bills and all his dreams and hopes die at that 9-5 he hates going to. When his mood darkens and his regrets way on him in a way that’s almost suicidal. Once a man gets to that level what woman wants to deal with that? What woman wants to save him, give him hope and then help him rise from the ashes like a Phoenix? Are you that woman? That’s why it’s so important to know who you are before you try and build something with someone else.

It’s no different with women. Women with kids have to be more impressive than women without children. A woman that’s 26, living paycheck to paycheck, no attachments, living her life away at happy hours and going to New Orleans or Austin twice a month. She can do that, she can be irresponsible and sexy and free. She won’t be judged. But be the woman with the children staying with your mother every weekend while you get some “me” time. The ones that constantly blame all your issues and troubles on the father of that child you resent. You will be judged, by most men you meet. And most men won’t want anything past your body because you’ve put that out there. The more baggage you have, the more you need to bring to the table. It’s really that simple. Not just financially because no decent guy will ask anything of you financially. But mentally, spiritually, intellectually you have to just impress. You having a child doesn’t mean anything negative, you could have been married and happy and the guy just screwed up. But life is life and it isn’t fair.

Lastly, not all men and women are Kings and Queens. You have Court Jesters, Soldiers, Workers, Farmers, Peasants and etc… The moment we realize that expecting a man that only wants to fix cars and watch football and drink a cold beer to want to own his own shop or be the manager is the moment you’ll find happiness. The same goes for men. If a woman has no desire to sit in nail shops or hair salons or wear pretty panties and bras, then why would I or any man ask that of her? She is who she is and I can either love that or step back so another man can. Some men and women will just be more impressive than others. I can talk to anyone or write about anything from Eastern European History to the impact of reality television on our youth’s mindset. But I can’t fix a sink if it breaks, I can’t hunt deer or fish if the lights go out and we have to survive. All men won’t move you the same way but that makes them no less cool. And all women won’t inspire me to write novels but that doesn’t mean they can’t send a text that makes me smile. We’re not all equal but we’re all deserving in the right situation.

I’m four days sober today. It may not seem like a lot but when you’ve probably drank everyday most of the year that four days is a lifetime. I have my flaws and they’re deep but I love who I am, flaws, regrets, heartbreaks and all. Make sure you love yourself before you can love anyone else.

Enjoy your weekend and smile… You’re here baby! You’re living!

All Women Aren’t Created Equal…

Reason One– I once read an article that said it takes twice the time you were with someone to get over them. So if she was mine for a year it will take me two to get over her, if I was with her for ten, it would take me twenty to get over her.

When a woman is around you for a period of time and everything she does is simply perfect or she can do no wrong; she’s become irreplaceable simply because she was there.

Reason Two– Every woman feels different, the texture of her skin, the smell of her hair. The size of her nipples or the way she moans when you touch her. Some moans are just perfect, some lips are just wetter. Some kisses are just sweeter.

How can you replace perfect lips?

Reason Three– If she loves what you loves, genuinely loves it, then you just know it’s meant to be. And when the day comes that some bullshit that has nothing to do with the two of you breaks you up that doesn’t change the fact that she’s still perfect for you.

Because regardless you’ll still see her face in every woman you’re with. And how can you move on when that’s the case?

Reason Four– Who do you want when you’ve had the worst day ever? Who do you need to talk to, need to hold you and tell you it’s going to be okay? That person doesn’t grow on trees. And if she’s that person; until you find someone to do what she did you’ll forever be on some other shit.

Reason Five– Not every woman is created equal.