Wake Up Calls

Wake Up Calls

Wake Up Calls

A lot of people think relationships are like romantic comedies. You meet someone, you realize you’re falling in love, you live happily ever after. The longer I was single the more I started to see having a girlfriend and potentially a wife as this perfect situation. When I met her and realized I was falling in love, realized I didn’t want her giving another man the feeling she was giving me it was the easiest thing in the world to make that commitment. To tell her, “Baby, I don’t want anyone else, you’re my world now.” That was in the beginning. Over time though we’ve settled into a routine and life happened.

We still have amazing sex but now it’s twice a week instead of damn near every night. I still wake up before her and watch her sleep at times but I don’t slide my hand under the sheets as much. We talk, we text, we laugh but the passion. The passion that came into our lives like a tidal wave just didn’t drown us like it did before.

Sitting in a meeting, trying to focus on work, all I could think about was how did we get here? I could live with arguing or fighting but this was different. We were becoming boring, comfortable. I wish I could say it was all her, she didn’t send the same pictures she used to send. “I’m not going to have a hacker having my ass on the internet. You see it every night so why do you need pictures?” She loves me, she still cooks and worries, there isn’t a selfish bone in her body but it’s just different. I still bring home flowers but now it just feels like a chore. Trying to remember the last time I picked her up in the middle of the day for lunch, I couldn’t. I used to do that for her once a week.

Seeing her name pop up on my phone with a video attached I put it back in my pocket. It was probably a video of a cat with a baseball cap on or a wedding dance that she thought was perfectly cute. Finishing the meeting, a little small talk, my phone vibrated again. “So I guess you didn’t like my video. I better send it to someone that does.” Wanting more than anything to avoid a fight I clicked on the video and my eyes immediately shot to the door because in a matter of seconds I couldn’t control what was happening in my pants. He woke up and anyone that would have walked into my office would have went to human resources with the quickness.

Where the bed was in our guest room was now replaced with a pole. A chair was sitting in the corner and music was playing in the background. “I know we’ve been in a funk lately, I don’t want us to be that couple. I’m saving a seat for you but until you get here I’ve learned a trick or two. So sit back and enjoy.” Sitting on the edge of my desk, watching my wife move her body to the music like she could perform at any club in Houston my mouth literary watered. A ripped up tank top and panties, she spun and bounced and dropped and when she sat in the chair and licked her finger and said, “I guess I have to get started without you.” What came next made me stop the video and tell my boss I had to go home right now!

Walking in the door, candles lit everywhere, the curtains closed. Music playing throughout the house; I walked to the guest room having to stop myself from running. Opening the door, seeing the pole, seeing the chair, handcuffs lying on the floor who was this woman because she wasn’t the wife I knew? Walking into the kitchen, seeing her on her tippy toes in that same tank top, in those same panties. Moving her body to the music while she cooked I just watched. She knew I was watching, the closer I got to her the harder she bounced it, shook it. Turning around and looking me in my eyes, “You must have watched the video. This isn’t free just because you’re my husband. Get on your knees and tell her you’re sorry for not waking her up in the morning like she’s used to. Tell her you’re sorry for not taking her to lunch once a week and after you tell her you’re sorry, give her a kiss.”

That half a day turned into us calling in the next day and rediscovering what we loved about each other’s bodies. Letting the nastiness settle in and the comfort level take us to places we’ve never went to. You don’t start looking for someone else when things go left; you fix what’s worth fixing. What’s worth fighting for.

Corporate Woman Appreciation Day

dress naked My name is Demez and I’m here for made up internet days. I can be a very serious man at times and that gets sort of tiring if I’m being honest. I like social media, I like interacting with strangers from the comfort of my home or work. I like being stressed and tired and taking fifteen minutes to look at women I’ll never meet in real life or comment on stories that won’t matter to my family or personal life.

We live in this society where everyone is too cool for everything. If you comment on too many FB post, you must not be working. If you post too many pictures on Instagram you can’t be dating. If you tweet a lot, you must not go out.

Today I came across a hashtag on twitter that was “Corporate Girl Appreciation Day.” Wondering what it was I clicked on it and came across several women sharing pictures of themselves in their corporate chic clothing.

Modest but sexy heels, pencil skirts that were fitting just right, blouses that were a button away from getting her a free lunch. I must have looked at twenty pictures and I commented on most of them because I appreciate women that take pride in what they wear to work.

One woman said, “I have large breast so I always have that top button dilemma, it’s comfortable to leave top buttons undone but these girls get way too much attention so I try to compromise by buying my blouses just a size bigger.” It was cute to me what women have to do just to be cute and taken seriously.

Whenever I date someone I always ask for pictures, now at first I know she’s looking at her phone like, “Here goes another one, I’m not getting naked in your iMessages.” But I can go to my saved pics for that. I like “I think I look cute at work today restroom pics.” “I’m sitting in traffic but my makeup is on point selfies.” “I know these older women at my job will hate but this skirt is fitting right pics.” Don’t post them for the world, send it to me. That’s why I love Corporate Women.

Why Men Love Mentally Stimulating Women

156962_10150323498710174_881165173_16061373_5591716_nOne- Random conversations; with technology at an all time high. FB chat, BB chat, Google chat, email, texting, messaging, the days of talking to someone on the phone often are becoming a thing of the past. So the concept of having a real hour long mentally stimulating conversation is maybe one of the sexiest things ever. When I hang up the phone my mind is just open because of her voice, her intelligence, her ability to absorb information and react. Yes… Phone conversations about politics, religion, life, love, real life issues can be so cool with the right smart woman.

Two- Natural Charm; charm is by far one of the most overlooked qualities on a woman. It often gets confused with flirting but it’s not even close. You can teach someone how to flirt but you can’t teach charm. Intelligent women usually have this natural ability to make you smile because they have the sense to know what works. If a man is mad she knows a joke to tell, if he’s sad she knows the right words to make him happy. Being able to recognize a problem and fix it in a manner of minutes isn’t something a basic chick can do.

Three- Situation and Circumstance; I’ve met so many women that carry themselves so ladylike, so elegantly and once I get to know them. Once we get comfortable, it’s all Jay Z, lets get drunk, what’s up homie… See intelligence isn’t always being prim and proper, a lot of times it’s about knowing when to be prim and proper. If I take her to my brother’s house for a fight and we’re drinking and talking noise, having a good time. She’s not setting the party off if she starts to talk about the mortgage prices or our Senate’s inability to get anything passed. By her seeing the crowd and seeing what everyone is about and adapting to that situation, she just showcased that beautiful brain of hers.

Four- Makes Date Nights Amazing; Have you ever tried to take someone that didn’t like history to a museum, it is just a waste of time. Talking about Plato or Caesar or Picasso to a woman that wants nothing to do with it. It’s not her fault she has no interest in history but when you take culture out of a relationship or date it becomes a bunch of drinking and reality show talk. I like exhibits and walking from restaurant to restaurant on a Sunday in City Centre drinking and talking about art. Not even in a geeky way but in a relaxing, calm way. Artists have the most interesting background stories and they make for perfect conversations.

Five- I’m a Freaking Writer!!!!; I write almost everyday of my life so the idea of having a woman that likes to read and give real feedback and make real corrections is so appealing to me. Women often mistake blind co-signing or random negative feedback for FEEDBACK… But real feedback is different, it just has a different vibe. Like I know she read it and I her opinions just make sense because she can explain herself and articulate herself.

At the end of the day beautiful women are everywhere and if you have charm or money or looks you can get one easy. Hell, lame guys can luck up on a fine woman. But you can’t luck up on a woman that’s an intellectual superstar because she just expects more, she just wants more.

 

 

She’s Overdressed If She’s Wearing Underwear…

handsI was sitting at my computer and I started to write a fictional story for the blog tonight but then as I was thinking what I wanted to write it hit me…

I don’t want to write about something that’s not real tonight. I want to write about the basis for the erotica that I do write about. And that’s sexy women.

Sitting here, I can’t remember the last time I had sex, it’s been awhile. I sort of made a promise to myself that the next time it happened it would mean something. There would be no regrets or sneaking out while she’s sleep. No worrying about STD’s or Pregnancies or faulty condoms. “The next time I have sex it will be with a woman I can see myself waking up to everyday hereafter.” I meant that and it wouldn’t hurt if it was a woman that understood the value of leaving her panties at home every now and again. I write about sex so much because I love it, I love sexual women and all the flirting and innuendo that leads to memorial nights and mornings. I’m about that life when that life finds me.

It’s sort of like when you’re having a good text session.

Where are we going tonight? What should I wear?

I’m a man that likes fashion, I could tell her where we’re going and what most of the women are going to be dressed like but that’s waaaaay to easy. I’d rather just say…

You’ll look good in anything, just make sure you aren’t wearing panties. It’s a casual spot fyi.

Some women will ignore the fact that you asked them not to wear panties. Some will give you one of those token lol’s that they give everyone. But the ones that you want, the one that you can’t wait to flirt with all night says something like…

I wasn’t planning on wearing them anyway.

That’s when you get excited. It doesn’t mean you’ll have sex with her that night. It doesn’t even mean you’ll see whether or not she’s wearing panties. It’s just the idea that she’s flirty and sexy enough to play the game with you. I often run across two sorts of women, the goofy and silly ones that seem to laugh at everything and the serious ones that wear you down. It’s not often you meet the ones that just know what to say at the right time to turn you on.

Anyway, I’m almost out of Crown so I’m going to make a trip to someone’s restaurant and finish watching this game and have a couple drinks. You ladies that are going to forget the underwear at home tonight or in the morning.

We appreciate you!

The 5 Sexiest Things A Woman Can Wear…

Five- Tank top– I know a lot of men prefer to see women in their t-shirt but to be honest that’s just never been my thing. My shirts are way too big and that whole draping look just isn’t my thing. I like to see the definition of a woman and tank tops do that. Use your imagination or look in the mirror in some cases. A pretty black tank top, black lace boy shorts, nude fingernails, the heater going, Adele in the background. Her reading on the couch, her legs crossed, a glass of wine on the floor. I love that image, I see that image, that image haunts me.  But let me not get off subject. I get lingerie; I find it just as sexy as the next man. But I’m just as turned on by a tank top and panties. That just seems more natural to me.

Four- My Dress Shirt- I made mention of t-shirts draping off of a woman in five and now I’m like, “one of my dress shirts?” I know someone is reading this thinking, “What’s the difference bro?” And the difference is… Dress shirts add this classic sort of sexiness. She roles up the sleeves, buttons one, two, three buttons and under that all you see is skin. I’ve never known a woman that liked putting on clothes after sex, maybe a pair of panties but when you’re watching her open the fridge or pop popcorn or pour a bowl of cereal in that button down. Knowing she’s only wearing it because it has your cologne on it, knowing she’s only wearing it so she can be that much closer to you. It’s a pretty cool feeling.

Three- Cap and Gown– Intelligence. Growth. Maturity. Dedication. Will Power. It is no easy thing to finish college, that’s why so many people give up or fail or pursue other dreams in life. So when I see a woman in a cap and gown I think about all she’s sacrificed, all the studying, all the papers she’s written and dates she’s cancelled. I see a woman that wanted it enough to go get it! That cap and gown is sexy because it’s real, it’s tangible. She isn’t the same woman she was when she walked thru those doors and growth is a sexy ass trait. I’m a writer, I love smart women with a passion. Good conversation, well read, that’s something that grows on me and impresses me rather quickly. Have you ever heard a woman that’s just graduated give a speech at a graduation party? The emotion in her voice, the way she’s always wearing perfect heels and has her hair sitting just right under that hat. It just works. It’s a turn on.

Two- Skin– When I was talking about the dress shirts, I said that most chicks hate clothes. Now some more than others but they just like being naked, especially if they’re comfortable around you. So when I see a woman in purely skin I’m just in awe, even if I’ve seen her naked a hundred times. Maybe it’s the texture or the softness of thighs but whatever the case it just excites me. Not only in a physical way but in a mental way. There’s something relaxing about a naked woman, calming even. When all she’s in is skin, I know she’s not going anywhere for a minute.

One- Little Black Dress- Coca Chanel is a genius, she took black which at the time was a color for men’s suits and funerals and created the “Little Black Dress.” Usually it sits right above the thighs, sleeveless, cleavage or a collar, it varies and it just works. Short hair, long hair, heels, boots, flats. Though I wouldn’t suggest boots. When I see a woman in a little black dress I always imagine she has on a really colorful bra and panty. Or leopard or cheetah or something vibrant. I think about if she tried on several variations of the dress or did she know her size and what she wanted. I see her pretty hand wrapped around a wine flute, I see her twirling around in the mirror to make sure everything about that “Little Black Dress,” is perfect. That look represents all that a woman is to me. I’m that guy that loves feminine. I don’t want to date a guy, I want her in dresses and perfume and girly undertones. The little black dress always brings a smile to this writers face.

Anyway, these are just some late night thoughts from a man with a mind that never shuts off. Get some sleep if you’re still up out there. The year is almost up and the nights are longer so dream about your desires and then live those desires.

Angelic Nastiness

We’ve all heard of ‘A lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets,’ but I don’t think people realize just how meaningful this saying is. As men we’re conditioned to be leaders, providers, strong in the face of adversity. And for most men the only piece of mind they’ll get will be when he’s with his woman.

For all of my romanticisms about women. The pretty skin and thick hair, the perfect accessories and ladylike diction when she speaks, at the core of what I want most is an Angelic Nastiness. A subtle sexual energy that invades my senses whenever I hear from her or see her. It’s the idea that her ladylike tendencies perfectly balance out with her bedroom desires.

Do you know why I write about women so much? Why men write so many love songs? Why CEO’s are willing to marry women with no prenups and risk half of fortunes?

It’s because at the essence of what makes us great is the freaky shit women do. As much as we love you for the children and support and love and care. We love you just as much for the kissing, sucking, swallowing and riding.
Trading in your slacks, heels and blouse for my t-shirt and jolly ranchers of the floor of my office.

Angelic Nastiness is perfection in motion.

Why Men Love Mentally Stimulating Women

One- Random conversations; with technology at an all time high. FB chat, BB chat, Google chat, email, texting, messaging, Twitter… the days of talking to someone on the phone often are becoming a thing of the past. So the concept of having a real hour long mentally stimulating conversation is maybe one of the sexiest things ever. When I hang up the phone my mind is just open because of her voice, her intelligence, her ability to absorb information and react. Yes… Phone conversations about politics, religion, life, love, real life issues can be so cool with the right smart woman.

Two- Natural Charm; charm is by far one of the most overlooked qualities on a woman. It often gets confused with flirting but it’s not even close. You can teach someone how to flirt but you can’t teach charm. Intelligent women usually have this natural ability to make you smile because they have the sense to know what works. If a man is mad she knows a joke to tell, if he’s sad she knows the right words to make him happy. Being able to recognize a problem and fix it in a manner of minutes isn’t something a basic chick can do.

Three- Situation and Circumstance; I’ve met so many women that carry themselves so ladylike, so elegantly and once I get to know them. Once we get comfortable, it’s all Jay Z, lets get drunk, what’s up homie… See intelligence isn’t always being prim and proper, a lot of times it’s about knowing when to be prim and proper. If I take her to my brothers house for a fight and we’re drinking and talking shit, having a good time. She’s not setting the party off if she starts to talk about the mortgage prices or our Senate’s inability to get anything passed. By her seeing the crowd and seeing what everyone is about and adapting to that situation, she just showcased that beautiful brain of hers.

Four- Makes Date Nights Amazing; Have you ever tried to take someone that didn’t like history to a museum, it is just a waste of time. Talking about Plato or Caesar or Picasso to a woman that wants nothing to do with it. It’s not her fault she has no interest in history but when you take culture out of a relationship or date it becomes a bunch of drinking and reality show talk. I like exhibits and walking from restaurant to restaurant on a random Wednesday in City Centre drinking and talking about art. Not even in a geeky way but in a relaxing, calm way. Artists have the most interesting background stories and they make for perfect conversations. Not to mention people watching is cool as hell.

Five- I’m a Freaking Writer!!!!; I write almost everyday of my life so the idea of having a woman that likes to read and give real feedback and make real corrections is so appealing to me. Women often mistake blind co-signing or random negative feedback for FEEDBACK… But real feedback is different, it just has a different vibe. Like I know she read it and all of her opinions just make sense because she can explain herself and articulate herself.

At the end of the day beautiful women are everywhere and if you have charm or money or looks you can get one easy. Hell, lame guys can luck up on a fine woman. But you can’t luck up on a woman that’s an intellectual superstar because she just expects more, she just wants more.

These are just some of the early morning thoughts I have when I have an off day. I just wanted to share my love for smart women. I hope you all enjoy your hump day and I have to go off and find a lunch date.

 

Demez F. White