Finding out that your husband secretly spent $160,000 of your savings on his card collection was probably upsetting and frustrating. You may have felt a deep betrayal and sense of injustice at this revelation.

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Your reaction to seek revenge may seem understandable, but it’s important to think about the consequences of your actions and how they might affect your relationship in the long term.

Rather than seeking revenge, you might consider having an honest and open conversation with your husband to express your feelings and concerns. Try to understand why he made this decision and if you can find common ground to resolve the problem together.

However, if trust in your relationship is seriously compromised and you are unable to reach a compromise, it may be necessary to take steps to protect your financial and emotional interests. This could include consulting a financial advisor or attorney to explore your options.

Whatever decision you make, it is important to take care of yourself and seek support from friends, family or a professional if necessary. Difficult financial and relationship situations can be stressful, but with time and the right support, it is possible to overcome challenges and find a path to a more positive future.